4 Things to Do if You are In Love with a Friend By PickUpSuccessGuide.com Staff There are many cases wherein friends had become lovers in the end of their relationship. There are also some couples that remained friends even after the break up. What do these things have to say? This only shows how friendship and love could go hand in hand. However, it does not necessarily mean that friendship will always lead to love that is intended for a more serious kind of relationship. According to some surveys, nearly 4 out of 10 pairs of a man and a woman who are friends end up as lovers. This can be traced on the way they treat each other and the way the bond that connects them was made stronger as the years passed by. For this reason, it is not impossible for two people who have special feeling for each other, who had been so close throughout the years, and who have been through thick and thin would not eventually fall in love. There are those who do well with this kind of situation, especially if the feelings were mutual from the very start. However, for those who are not sure whether or not their ‘friend” feels the same thing that they feel for them, then, that could pose such an emotional malady. What happens next is that you do not know how to treat your friend. You feel awkward and shy and you just cannot possibly act the same way that you used to do before. Even if you try hard to suppress the feeling, time will come that you can no longer pretend and act as if nothing is wrong. Here are some tips on what to do if ever you are in love with a friend: 1. Try to find some options If the feeling is not yet that strong, or if you think that there is still enough room for you to hold back, it would be better to consider some options. If you can control it, try to act as if nothing has changed and that you can still do the things that you used to do before. The point here is that it is best to save the friendship that you both worked hard to develop and flourish. If in case your friend does not feel the same way like you do, chances are, getting into such trouble of telling him or her what you feel might just make the situation do more harm than good. 2. Put some space in between you and your friend This might puzzle your friend and may even hurt his or her feeling. Of course, once you start making yourself distant, he or she will definitely wonder what had been wrong. However, it is best to find some other friends first to test if the feelings that you have is really based on love aside from the kind of love you used to have with your friend. This is because there are instances wherein some people feel that they are already romantically in love with their friend only to find out in the end that there is really no spark and that the feelings is accounted to the kind of closeness that goes in between. Once you have realized that the romantic feeling is gone, you can always start back from where you have left off. 3. Continue to hold on and wish that someday the blue fairy would grant your wish If you are brave enough to hold on endlessly and continue loving your friend even if it is kept hidden, then, do so. Just be sure that once you have seen your friend involve with somebody else, you can tolerate the hurt that you are bound to experience. 4. Be true to yourself and to your friend. Speak up! There is nothing wrong in falling in love with your friend, as long as your feelings are genuine. So the next best thing to do is to reveal to your friend what you really feel. This may be hard; in fact, it may even be harder than you think. The important focus is the friendship. Of course, you would not want to destroy your friendship just because you have fallen in love with your friend, right? So this could mean the end of your friendship or the beginning of a beautiful relationship as lovers. Whatever your future is, only one thing is certain: the decision is all yours. Just be sure that you are prepared for whatever consequences your decisions may bring along.